compassion pit sound advice

Me: yo

Me: no oness there

Listener: hey

Me: ah hey lol

Me: no one was speaking to me

Listener: yes. wanna talk about your problems/.'

Me: indeed

Listener: alright shoot

Me: boyfriend issue of course

Me: he has an issue

Listener: whats goin on

Me: he has diabetes

Me: type one

Me: and stenosis of the spine

Listener: yes, why is this a problem

Me: not that ud know that to look at him some days his pain is unbareable and he cant move

Me: he gets angry

Me: and shouts and puts me down

Listener: thats unfortunate :( im sorry

Listener: thats a part of diabetes he cant help it

Me: sometimes i cnt take it

Me: so we made a deal

Listener: i know it sucks but u have to understand its relly really hard to control your temper when your blood sugar is off

Listener: whats the deal?

Me: if he was gunna get mad he should ask for space or at least make me feel good wen his anger is gone

Listener: thats a good deal

Me: i know what he says is in the heat of the moment so i try and ignor it even thou its hurt ful

Me: and after he has to hug and kiss me and tell me he dosnt mean it

Me: its been two months now and he hasnt stuck to the deal

Listener: maybe you could help him moniter his b.s. so it doesnt happen as much

Me: instead w oculd be any where and hel change very quickly

Listener: he should be keeping up his part, have u talked to him about it

Me: i have

Listener: the changes are uncontrollable

Me: he said i should dump him

Listener: tell him to stop feeling sorry for himself

Me: well i said dnt be a dick lol

Listener: if ur willing to help him u should let him know, saying dont be a dick is really vauge

Me: well

Me: i said that and then i said im either worth making the effort for or not

Listener: but thats something he cant help

Me: it effects me alot wen he gets mad at me as i grew up in a violent home

Listener: so dont be too hard on him even tho he's hurtful

Me: i try my best

Listener: just talk with him and tell him to try and consciously think of what he's saying

Me: so u think his behaviour is excusable ?

Listener: no, but it is something he cannot control. you've gotta understand that

Listener: and he doesnt mean it

Me: i dnt agree i think every ones actions are with in their control

Listener: well do you have diabetes?

Me: interesting

Listener: look

Me: go on

Listener: this is coming from someone that has to deal with that too

Listener: my gf has diabetes

Listener: she was on here at first

Listener: and we switched

Listener: anyway, this is the bf

Listener: she has those moments too

Listener: i didnt get it at first

Listener: i thought she was being mean/hurtful and it was something i did

Listener: but then she explained it to me

Listener: you really cannot control what your mood is. your blood sugar has more to do with than you think

Listener: she can get sick to her stomach, tired, mad, etc all from one little thing

Me: do you think maybe, please dnt take this the wrong way, that a girl shouting at a guy is very different to a guy shouting at a girl

Listener: so she went into detail about it and she really doesnt mean what she says. sure it hurts but i know she doesnt mean it

Listener: yeah, to a certain extent. a guy should be a gentleman and never yell at a lady. but you gotta realize he CANNOT help it

Listener: im sure he doesnt mean it either

Me: this is hard for me to understand i guess thats where the issue is

Listener: just try to sit with him and talk calmly

Listener: have him tell you exactly what he feels when it happens

Listener: it was hard for me to understand too. but she did an amazing job of explaingin it to me

Me: no you cant talk to him when hes in that mood but i will take your adice and ask him to describe the process wen hes calm

Listener: no no no

Me: lol

Listener: of ocurse when hes like that you cannot try that

Listener: wait till hes ok

Listener: then sit down and explain how you feel to him

Listener: thats what worked for haley and i

Me: rite i hope hes open enough for this, he often shrugs his shoulders wen we talk about deeper stuff

Me: but im obviously here to try

Listener: well you need to explain to him how you feel

Listener: good luck :D

Listener: i hope you helped

Listener: oh

Listener: one more thing

Me: go on

Listener: tell him not to be embarrassed.

Listener: about that or anything

Me: you think he will be

Listener: that he can tell you anythig and you wont judge or think less of him

Listener: my gf was, she felt taht no one would understand so whats the point

Listener: and thats what i told her. she can tell me anything

Me: well you are both blessed